The thing about being aromantic is that there aren’t really any role models out there, no one in the spotlight who we can point to and say, “look, they did it, they made a life for themselves as an aromantic person.” There’s no clear picture of what the future of an aromantic person might look like. There’s really no one in the spotlight who’s been living as a proud aromantic for YEARS to provide advice or guidance.
Because it’s a fairly new label compared to many others, and we’re a fairly small and invisible community of people, we don’t really have any representation and so it can be hard to look forward to a future of being aromantic. In fact, it can be kind of scary, especially when people around you begin to couple up and you don’t, and today can be an awful reminder of that.
But try to think of it this way: you can shape your future into whatever you want it to be. Just because the possibilities may seem murky, scary, or out of reach, doesn’t mean they aren’t endless. You, as an arospec person, deserve a fulfilling life, and you get to decide what that means for you. People who try to tell you that a romantic relationship is crucial to that fulfillment are lying to you and they don’t get to decide how your life is going to turn out.
Don’t give up hope. Some day, we all have the power to become those role models. So persevere, with the hopes that even if the future for us is unclear, you can provide guidance for future aromantics years down the line.
Keep moving forward!
on aromantic role models
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