ace-thinks:

If part of you “defending” asexual people involves anything similar to “asexuals fall in love just like normal humans” then you’re doing it wrong.

Like I get the sentiment, I really do, but what that is implicitly saying is that proof of asexuals’ humanity lies at least somewhat in their ability to fall in love. The implied meaning is that if ace people didn’t/couldn’t fall in love then they wouldn’t qualify as normal humans.

This is bad for lots of reasons.

So really if you’re gonna try to argue for ace humanity, the best way to do that is to say something along the lines of “Ace people are people because they’re people.” They’re humanity in no way lies in their ability or inability to do anything. They’re just people.

This extends to any discourse surrounding the humanity of minority groups. These types of arguments are inherently problematic for many reasons, the main one being that it really just boils down to trying to prove a group’s humanity by demonstrating their proximity to the majority. So the more things a group does that is the same or similar to the majority, the more human they are.

This is bad for lots of reasons.

So basically let’s just agree to stop enumerating the “reasons” why ace people (or anybody) is human and just let peoples’ humanity be the only relevant proof for their humanity.