thefemaleofspecies:

Stop the belief that misidentifying with a sexual/gender orientation is a “hurdle” or a “setback” in your journey of finding your true identity and instead realize that misidentification is a common consequence of living in a culture where being cis and straight is supposed to be a norm and  access to any information and resources about the existence of non cis and straight identities is quite limited and restricted by one’s peers,institutions etc

Stop blaming and demonizing already marginalized communities for your misidentification when all they did was accept you and provide you a safe space to discuss your experiences and explore your identity.Its not their fault that you didnt feel like you belonged with them.

It’s not bi/pan people’s fault that you identified with their label because of your internalized homophobia

It’s not asexual people’s fault that you identified with their label because of your internalized homophobia

Its not trans/non binary/gender fluid/agender people’s fault that you identified with their label because of your internalized homophobia or your issues with the gender roles imposed on you

Its not lesbian/gay people’s fault that you identified with their label because of your internalized transphobia

There’s nothing wrong with misidentification. There’s nothing wrong with exploring your identity. Hold the cis heternormative society and institutions accountable for your misidentification instead of invalidating the existence of identities which give thousands of people to around the world comfort and solidarity just bc you had a bad experience with them.