Just a quick heads-up, because I think this needs to be said (again);

fuckyeahasexual:

Dear young/questioning aces; 

When other people, especially older people, try to ‘educate’ you about how ‘sexuality is complicated’ and how ‘you might not be ace’ and that ‘you’re probably confused’ and that ‘you’re probably [this] instead’,

You run.

Sexuality is indeed complicated, and yes, you might not be ace. But these kinds of people couldn’t care less either way.

Helpful people give you the freedom of choice – whether that choice lasts a lifetime, or until the next morning. Helpful people give you the agency to make your own decision about your own, personal, private identity.

If someone is trying to collectively discourage questioning aces into forgoing their ace identity? That’s not helpful. That’s an illusion of help under the guise of liberation. They’re trying to make you into something they want you to be.

Whether their advice is helpful or not, to any degree, this type of gaslighting and manipulation is not what you deserve. You can get the same kind of answers and help and support from people who aren’t damaging and toxic.

Find people who will let you be ace. Find people who will let you be yourself.

– Fae