You know what should be a thing, aromantic – polyamourous solidarity. Like I know it seems like I’m talking about things that are completely opposite, but think about it
– both groups reject conventional relationship ideas
– we all don’t believe in the idea of finding that one, single romantic partner that will be more important than anyone else in our lives (whether we don’t want a romantic partner at all or we want multiple, equally important ones)
– referring to above, we all get told one day we will find that person that will make us see the light of monogamous romantic love or whatever
– both polyam people and allosexual aros get shoved into the stereotype of asshole who just wants to sleep around without commitment
– our relationships of choice don’t get the same kind of privileges romantic ones do (whether because we don’t want to marry or because we can’t marry multiple people)
– some people are both aromantic and polyamourous
Idk I just think we could get along
This! This is what I’ve been trying to say! Aro and poly people both have to deal with amatonormativity and we should use that as a foundation for solidarity.
As someone who is both aro and poly, I agree, I think there are lots of areas of overlap and I’d like to see more solidarity with these two communities. I also think the two communities could inform each other quite a bit. Poly concepts of relationship models and intimacy would be very useful for aros seeking to build intimate relationships, and aro understanding of amatonormativity and attraction would be useful for poly people seeking to deconstruct relationship norms and better understand intimacy.
Another aro and poly person here. Amatonormativity weighs both communities down and our views of relationships are very similar. I hope that there is more unity between both communities in the future as we would all benefit from a bit of solidarity!
Another aro and polyam person here! I love everything in this post! ❤
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