lithromania:

i spent so much time being told that i “wasn’t ready for relationships” and that i was “too nervous” or “not mature enough” to handle them that i began to believe it. i tried so hard to better myself and do self-reflection and work at understanding why i had such a problem with being in relationships with others that i never considered the possibility of being aro-spec. moral of the story: please don’t let others tell you why you feel the way you do!! explore! research! find what’s right for you, because you are so valid and deserve to be happy!