how do you know if your aro bc I cant tell if i am or if im just like in a “young dumb and fuck love!!” mentality if that makes sense? im sorry if this question makes no sense lmao

aspecsapphic:

some good ways to know if you’re aromantic or somewhere on the aro spectrum are as follows:

• if you’ve never been romantically attracted to anyone (as in seen someone and wanted to date them and do romantic things with them)
• if you’re not sure if you’ve ever had a crush on someone
• if you’re not sure if you’ve ever been in love
• if you have trouble telling the difference between romantic and friendly feelings
• if you find romance boring, annoying or upsetting when it appears in fiction, even if it’s well written
• if you want a best friend much more than you want a romantic relationship.
• if you’ve ever doubted whether crushes or love really exist, or if they’re just cultural constructs
• if you have trouble relating, or feeling involved when your friends discuss their romantic relationships or romantic feelings
• if falling in love doesn’t seem that exciting or important to you
• if you don’t really understand why other people make such a big deal out of having crushes or falling in love
• if you have never or rarely had a romantic relationship – not because you can’t get one, but because you just never really bothered to try, or you like being single better
• if getting a romantic partner feels more like fulfilling an obligation, or something you’re supposed to do, rather than something you’re really enthusiastic about
• if you’re more excited by making a new best friend than by falling in love
• if you wouldn’t mind marrying your best friend and spending your life with them, even though you’re not in love with them
• if when you discovered the word aromantic it felt like something finally clicked into place for you
• if identifying as aromantic makes you feel relieved, free, happy, or more like yourself