How do I accept myself as aro? I know it’s different for everybody and I’m not asking for a “one hit solution” kind of thing. Just things that help you accept this about urself. I’ve been struggling a lot lately

amazingaro:

This is kind of vague, but I think the best way to find self-acceptance is to find community, which looks different for each person.

For me, it was knowing aro people in real life and finding aro people online to talk about experiences with. It was reading headcanon posts and fics about characters I thought could be aro. It was writing my own experiences down in stories about other people and putting them where other people (aro and not could) read them.

There’s a lot of different ways though, and you have to find what works for you.

One thing I would advise is to stay far, far away from discourse. There are parts of the internet that are full of anger, and even if they are angry about the same things you are, I don’t think it’s very healthy or productive to dwell there for long.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t feel angry or bad or that you shouldn’t express it when you do, because you should be able to. But find people that celebrate the positives as well.

This is sort of easier said than done, but I’ll try to help if I can. If you want someone to talk to about being aro, my main blog is @buffintruda. You (and anybody else) can just send me a message like “when did you know you were aro?” or “what are your favorite books?” or “what other cool aro bloggers do you know on tumblr?” or “who do you headcanon as aro and why?” or just tell me about yourself or basically whatever.

I hope this helps!

–Mod Buffintruda