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listen in theory i love dark academia like secret societies? higher learning? doing morally grey things at odd hours? but in reality u put me in an place filled with history and old ass books i would lose my mcfuckin mind. just go absolutely wild on main. no one would want me in their club bc id be staring at tolstoy in the original russian for four consecutive hours.
Me: Oh shit I need to do that Very Important Thing
Me: I’ll do that later
Me but now in a John Mulaney voice: AND THEN I DIDN’T.
“you’re just playing hard to get!” false. i’m playing impossible to get
Anyone else terrified that they are toxic and manipulative and just can’t see it? Or is that just me?
So I’m like sorta romance repulsed or something (is that a thing?? if it is then i’m that)where it’s like, if I meet someone and they’re ALREADY in a romantic relationship, I’m cool and I don’t mind. But if I meet someone and they’re single and then later they get into a relationship, there’s like a 90% chance that I’m gonna wanna not really talk to them cause it causes me anxiety bc they’re in a relationship
I’m not sure if this would count as romance repulsed. It kind of sounds like something a lot of Aros probably experience. It’s this idea that, “Okay, this person is already in a romantic relationship, cool. We can be friends.” But then if we meet someone who isn’t, and get to know them, and then they get into a romantic relationship with someone later, it kind of causes a slight feeling of betrayal. Not that that person has done anything to earn it, but I think it’s kind of like this connection you feel with them, and then when they find someone, you feel like that connection has been severed to an extent, or you become the third wheel (and that’s not fun for a lot of people). My ex qpp got into a romantic relationship recently and she keeps talking about how she wants me and her boyfriend to get along and how we should all hang out. While I would love to be able to get along with him, if I hang out with both of them at the same time, i’m gonna be the third wheel, and I can’t interact with her like I would when he’s not around, because there’s still some level of intimacy between us. I think it all boils down to the level of closeness you feel with that person, and not necessarily being romance repulsed.
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~Amber
I’ve found that I experience that sometimes. If a close friend of mine starts a romantic relationship, I find myself feeling somewhat excluded, even though I know I shouldn’t. I think it boils down (for myself, it might be different for others and I don’t want to generalize) to a small fear that all of my alloromantic friends will eventually settle down with others and that I’ll be left alone? It’s a ridiculous fear, and most of the time I can ignore it, but every so often it’ll resurface, especially when new romantic relationships are started with people I know.
I agree and think that it’s a common thing for aros to feel that way when friends start romantic relationships, whatever the reason. Not everyone does, of course, but a decent amount of people I have talked to have noted feeling the same kind of aversion to those new relationships. I also agree that I think a lot of it has to be because of the “third-wheel” status, which the people in the romantic relationship don’t always realize exists.
my only two moods ever are tenderness and hysteria
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