Tag: aromantic

nonbinarypastels:

support aromantic allosexuals who are part of a marginalized group that’s hypersexualized by others.

being aroallo doesn’t mean that the hypersexualization you face is your fault or that you deserve it, it doesn’t mean you deserve to be abused or fetishized, it doesn’t mean that you’re “setting a bad example” for that group, and it doesn’t mean you deserve to be treated as anything less than human. being aroallo does not mean you’re not deserving of respect, kindness, and basic human decency or that you’re not allowed to have boundaries and have them respected.

how do you know if your aro bc I cant tell if i am or if im just like in a “young dumb and fuck love!!” mentality if that makes sense? im sorry if this question makes no sense lmao

aspecsapphic:

some good ways to know if you’re aromantic or somewhere on the aro spectrum are as follows:

  • if you’ve never been romantically attracted to anyone (as in seen someone and wanted to date them and do romantic things with them)
  • if you’re not sure if you’ve ever had a crush on someone
  • if you’re not sure if you’ve ever been in love
  • if you have trouble telling the difference between romantic and friendly feelings
  • if you find romance boring, annoying or upsetting when it appears in fiction, even if it’s well written
  • if you want a best friend much more than you want a romantic relationship.
  • if you’ve ever doubted whether crushes or love really exist, or if they’re just cultural constructs
  • if you have trouble relating, or feeling involved when your friends discuss their romantic relationships or romantic feelings
  • if falling in love doesn’t seem that exciting or important to you
  • if you don’t really understand why other people make such a big deal out of having crushes or falling in love
  • if you have never or rarely had a romantic relationship – not because you can’t get one, but because you just never really bothered to try, or you like being single better
  • if getting a romantic partner feels more like fulfilling an obligation, or something you’re supposed to do, rather than something you’re really enthusiastic about
  • if you’re more excited by making a new best friend than by falling in love
  • if you wouldn’t mind marrying your best friend and spending your life with them, even though you’re not in love with them
  • if when you discovered the word aromantic it felt like something finally clicked into place for you
  • if identifying as aromantic makes you feel relieved, free, happy, or more like yourself

Ace and Aro Book

ace-and-aro-support-group:

Hi!

I’m Isabel, a member of the aces group in DC. I am a board member and co-founder of The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project (TAAAP), an ace and aro activist group. We’re trying to write a book on asexuality and aromanticism that is geared towards people who work with asexual and/or aromantic people in a professional setting — i.e. mental health professionals, doctors, guidance counselors, volunteers/employees at LGBTQ+ centers, etc.

We aim to make this book representative of a diverse range of experiences, and in order to do that, we are looking for asexual and/or aromantic people who might be willing to take a survey to share their experiences; either in the form of direct quotes or as a reference for our own writing. This is the survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdiwnsg0mCDRD3uSN6Z70tarC7O4RbOK2ZRjrE5nCTmX_i4fA/viewform.

I’d be happy to talk to you about this more – you can email TAAAP at asexualawarenessproject@gmail.com.

Hope to talk to you soon!

-Isabel

academic article on asexuality in the stories of King Arthur

kinkyasexuals:

tristifere:

tristifere:

in happy academic news: I’ve just come across a literary article which is an asexual reading of Galahad in le Morte d’Arthur. Someone married medieval studies to asexuality. I’M SO HAPPY.

EVEN BETTER NEWS: you can access it for free on Arthuriana (it’s in issue 24.3). Here’s a direct link to the PDF.

I’m off to read it. Will report back.

I read it! And I LOVED it. Not that that’s hard … medieval studies happens to be my field and I’m a total medieval romance nerd. So asexual knighthood is now officially my new favorite subject. The author had some really interesting things to say on how to approach “asexuality” in the past. The way they applied it might not be useful for other fields of medieval studies, but it’s food for thought!

And an asexual reading of Galahad works so well! I have to reread Malory now. I’m also wondering how universal this ace!galahad representation is? How is he portrayed in other Arthurian romances and in other traditions like the French or German ones? Questions, questions. I will have to make a trip to the library. Luckily my to-read list now includes delightful titles like “menacing virgins”.

So what can you take away if you’re not a huge Middle Ages nerd like me? That ace!Galahad is totally a thing. Because asexuality is a very likely explanation of Galahad’s deal. Go forth and write Galahad-fiction, people.

Some thoughts on the definition of asexuality that was used

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Excuse me, I’m just going to curl into a ball and cry because my nerdy side is overflowing with joy.