I think a pretty good way to figure out where you are on the ace/aro spectrum is to, if you find yourself attracted to someone, think about how you’d like to spend your time with them:
Do want to hold their hand? Have sex with them? Kiss them? Talk with them? Play video games? Watch a movie? Cuddle on the couch? Spoon with them?
And additionally, when you’re in a relationship:
What do you do together? What do you want to do together? Do you feel differently about what you’d like to do with them than when you started?
Based on your thoughts and feelings, find the label that works best for you!
in conclusion, dont let anyone on this dumb hellsite tell you you’re not lgbt. nobody in the real world cares. the discourse only exists on tumblr. so go out there and be you’re ace ass self and dont worry about the bullshit on this site.
Ever since I found out that the UNITED NATIONS include asexuals (and aromantics!) I don’t give a shit about the discourse™ on this hellsite anymore
(document published by the United Nations High Commission for Refugees)
15
I always wear a ring
Black
Right hand
Middle finger
It’s symbolic, I tell my parents
and because my mother still thinks
she raised me with manners
and I hate disappointing her
I don’t mention that it’s also
convenient
when I need to flip off the next guy who calls me a prude.
14
“It’s a thing, a real thing.”
“No, I’m serious!”
“It’s not a choice.”
“The ‘A’ doesn’t stand for ally!”
“I’m older NOW.”
13
I’m…not…broken?
12
I break down on my mother’s shoulder
crying and letting her rub my knuckle with her thumb
because I know I don’t like boys
and I just got a letter from my best friend
and I miss her so much
and I don’t understand myself
because no one’s ever bothered explaining
what it means to love someone
without wanting to kiss them.
11
Someone gives me a novel
and the pieces fall together when I read it.
…THAT’S where babies come from?
Why would anyone DO that?
…No, I really don’t think I’ll like it when I’m older.
10
My friend is going on a date
and all I can think is
“You really wanted to kiss him?”
I start to wonder what I’m not understanding.
9
I have friends now
and they ask me, giggling,
“Who do you have a crush on?
‘Oh, right,’ I think
remembering books
‘People talk about that sort of thing.’
So I pick at random.
He looks nice and I can make up stories about him.
Isn’t that what everyone else is doing?
(he moves away six months later
I’m happy I never had to kiss him.)
8
One of the other girls uses the word “hot”
I ask her what it means.
She says “You know” and giggles.
…I really don’t.
7
Why do people in movies always have to keep kissing?
6
My parents talk to me
about boys.
Why?
5
I can read books myself now.
People are still kissing.
I still don’t like it.
I miss Aidan at school
because no one else will play tag with me.
4
Aidan and I are going to get married someday.
We’ll have a trampoline and five dogs
I kiss him on the cheek.
He kisses me on the cheek.
I think we’ll have a wedding without kissing
But lots of cake!
3
I don’t like kissing stories.
Mom says I will when I’m older.
2
1
0
My parents are planning to support their child
no matter what gender they like to kiss.
They never do realize that ‘none of the above’ is an option.
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