aromagni:

As an aro, I can joke that at least I don’t have to worry about dating, but an alloro person cannot tell an aro person that.

Similarly, a lesbian can joke that at least she doesn’t have to date men, but a straight woman cannot tell a lesbian that.

Essentially, when someone else jokes about it a marginalized identity in this way, they are doing it without the context to understand, but when I joke, I’m doing it feeling the weight of the good and bad, and trying to make myself feel better by joking about good