Even if I was given the opportunity to fall in love with someone romantically, I wouldn’t take it.
If I was given the chance to stop being aromantic, and begin experiencing romantic feelings like most people do, I would not take it.
Even though it would mean that I wouldn’t have to deal with all the crap aromantics get–being treated like we’re villainous, inhuman, disreputable, heartless, selfish, lying, robotic, immature, or nonexistent–even then, I would still choose to be aromantic instead of romantic.
Why? Because being aromantic is part of who I am. It has shaped my past experiences, and made me the person I am today. And I happen to like the person I am. If you changed the sort of emotions I can feel toward people, you’d be changing a fundamental part of my personality. I don’t want some “love interest” to change me like that.
I don’t care if other people think “falling in love” would be good for me or bring me happiness. I would rather pursue my own form of happiness, than give up part of myself in order to conform to what other people think will make me happy.
Every day, the culture I live in throws messages at me: Romance is important. Don’t you want romance? Of course you do. Romance is necessary. Your life is unfulfilling and lonely if you don’t have a romantic partner. You should date. You should seek out romantic love. You should want this emotion that we are telling you to want. If you don’t want it, then you’re just lying to yourself. We know what’s best for you. We know that you want it.
And this is my response to those messages: No.
It may be hard for some people to believe, but I truly, genuinely don’t want romantic love. I don’t miss it. I do not feel incomplete, or lonely, or inferior because I don’t have a romantic partner. And I will not allow society to make me feel like I am incomplete or inferior. I used to feel that way; I used to believe those messages.
I will not fall for that lie again.
Tag: lgbtqia
what the HECK fuck is a sexual attraction
As a butch lesbian, I HATE when ppl call me a stereotype. I CANT be a stereotype Bc I EXIST! A stereotype is a fictional manifestation of conflated ideals abt a specific group of ppl. But I’m not fictional!! I’m in This Bitch!!! Just say u hate lesbians and go!
Also – making a lesbian character butch isn’t a Stereotype either. Making her predatory and obsessed w str8 girls is a stereotype, bc that’s a concept non-lesbians invented. But butch lesbians just exist.
To make a lesbian character butch is actually powerful bc it’s making it undeniable that she’s gay. it’s showing men a woman and saying very clearly “she’s not for you!” And that’s not a lesbian stereotype! That’s a lesbian truth!!!
Non-lesbians can and should reblog
TERFS DONT TOUCH! NONE OF U ARE VALID AND IDC ABT UR OPINIONS!!!
funny how when a “straight” person finds themselves surrounded by a bunch of gay and lesbian and bisexual friends they often end up realizing they aren’t straight it’s almost like heteronormativity and being surrounded by heteronormativity keeps people in the closet and being in an environment where gay love is more normalized allows people to connect with parts of themselves they otherwise probably wouldn’t be able to
really tired of seeing “x lord of the rings character is gay” posts that aren’t about gandalf when he’s clearly the gayest character in the stories
falls off a cliff to his death in front of his most beloved friends only to show up like a week later, hair dyed in a new outfit like “oh i forgot my own name” what level of gay drama
To anyone who is going to get misgendered today.
To anyone who is going to hear a part of their identity dismissed today.
To anyone who is going to hear homophobia and feel it on a deeply personal level today.
You are valid and loved. So much.
IT JUST HIT ME THAT THIS IS ABOUT BEING TRANS
I REBLOGGED IT THINKING IT WAS A MEME ABOUT BEING SHIRTLESS IN VIDEO GAMES
I just thought it was bout a dude who loved bein shirtless so much he bribed the government to look the other way
I mean in a way you’re right.
remember to pay your respects to those pretending to be straight today
Shout-out to the mlm who are gonna be asked about bringing a girl home for the holidays
Shout-out to the wlw who are gonna be asked about bringing a boy home for the holidays
Shout-out to the trans kids being forced to present as their assigned gender who are going to be misgendered and misnamed
All of you are so strong and valid and I love every one of you. My blog is always a safe space for anyone who needs to talk. Especially during the holidays. You’re all amazing. Families can suck and holidays can be tough, but is temporary and you’ll make it through. I beleive in you
Reblog if you genuinely support asexuals
It terrifies me that there’s so much raging passion in the lgbt+ community that insist on marginalizing asexuals and implying that asexuals don’t deserve to have safe spaces. There’s still so much acephobia so I just wanna know which blogs are genuinely supportive and a safe space for asexuals
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