seeing an uptick in the pan vs bi shit lately so I’m gonna say a few things
pan is not transphobic; pan does not other trans people or say they aren’t their gender. transphobic individuals in a community doesn’t mean the identity itself is transphobic.
pan is not biphobic; pan is not trying to be better than or replace bi. it is not saying that bi is bad or unneeded. biphobic individuals in a community doesn’t mean the identity itself is biphobic.
pan isn’t transphobic/biphobic in origin; actual trans and non-binary people who lived through and helped pan come about have said it was in direct response to the transphobia in the bi community at the time and served as a way to create a safe space for trans people. how is trans people creating a safe space for themselves transphobic? how is a movement in response to a very real issue in the bi community biphobic?
pan is not an unnecessary label: pan has a history and importance to people that can’t just be thrown away. and definition wise, some people prefer more specific terms and some people just relate to pan in a way they don’t with bi. that alone means it IS a necessary label.
bi is not transphobic; bi does not exclude trans people. transphobic individuals in a community doesn’t mean the identity itself is transphobic
bi is not binary; bi is not limited to men and women, or specifically cis men and women. it does not exclude anyone.
bi is not outdated; bi is not and never will be an outdated term. it is a very historic identity with a whole lot of history and no amount of other specific terms or embracing fluidity or umbrella terms or anything else will ever erase the importance and relevance of it.
not only are the claims against at both identities sometimes very ahistorical, but they’re also just garbage at this point and I’m tired of seeing people continue to throw them around and contributing to this hateful and unhelpful narrative
pan is attraction to people of all gender identities/lack thereof
bi is attraction to people of two or more gender identities/lack thereof
both labels/communities are not competing and can coexist
pan trans and non-binary people exist. bi trans and bi non-binary people exist; stop erasing trans and non-binary people’s existence and experiences in order to use them as a mere argument point in your narrative against another identity
people who identify as both pan and bi exist; stop the “this or that” framing that erases people who identify as both or fluctuate between the two
all in all
pan and bi are not bigoted identities
they are very valid and important identities
neither is more legitimate or better than the other
please stop this pan vs bi bullshit, we really don’t need it
best part is, in that scene she actually says ‘are there girls who don’t like [as in being attracted to] girls?’, which means she thought being a wlw was literally a universal experience for women. that kind of makes the scene cuter if you ask me. this is from ‘Doctors’ btw.
Up until like 7th grade I also thought that everyone was gay except for the people on TV and let me tell you, I was very upset and confused when I found out about heterosexuals.
“I was very upset and confused when I found out about heterosexuals.”
Samee. I used to think romance was just a thing they added in movies or something. Then, in middle school, my friends started to get actual crushes and I started to wonder what else I had missed that was actually real.
Aro-spec characters aren’t boring or two-dimensional and if you write them like that there’s a good chance you’re not doing any of your characters justice! If your characters aren’t compelling on their own then you haven’t given them enough personality! Relationships are supposed to add to characters and the story, not complete incomplete characters.
YEAH BASICALLY alloros are too fragile to examine the societal norms that they personally like aka romance and it’s really embarassing
Tumblr: Let’s kill social norms! Honestly we should just be able to be however we are inside!
Aros: Hey society’s focus on romance hurts everyone, let’s end that. Right tumblr?
Tumblr: New phone who dis
tumblr: we should all analyse the harmful societal norms we ascribe to even if we personally benefit from or enjoy them
aros: ok so can you all reflect on some of the ways you talk about romantic relationships? we know y’all like romance but ouch you’re killing us scoob
tumblr: [cricket noises but somehow angry ones]
this calls for meme
[Image description: A picture of a man captioned “alloros” holding his hand out towards a butterfly captioned “Aros being upset by amatonormativity. Under the entire picture reads the caption “Is this a personal attack?”]
I need not tell you how to mourn. You can find lists of those killed by transphobic hate, and know that all of them are far from complete. If you want, I can help you find resources and lists.
Those things are important to an extent I could not overemphasise.
But I want to offer comfort. I wish you all the love you deserve, wish you every happiness, and though it is perhaps impossible to receive such a thing, I shall continue wishing it upon you. You are worth everything. And you are not alone in this.
I love you, and you can always message me with whatever you’re feeling. You are surrounded by a community which may be imperfect but you can find your own perfection in – people who will love and care and support you. You contain so many multitudes of love and beauty and joy, and you have so many marvels in your soul.
Remember our past. Protect yourself, you splendid person. What we are is a sublime thing.
You are loved, even when you are full of despair or rage. You are powerful even when you feel hopeless. And we will make things better.
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