Hi, yes, I would still like my question answered! How do I know if I’m uncomfortable with being seen as a woman because I’m actually not a woman, or because being seen as a woman has made me feel unsafe/sexualized in the past?

transgenderadvicegroup:

From other anonymous askers

I’m not THE anon but i’d love to your imput on how to tell transness from internalized misogyny

So I’m not the anon thag that originally asked the question about being afraid that my feelings are internalized misogyny and not actual dysphoria (trans masc) but that definitely is a worry that I have and has caused me a great deal of confusion. If you could re-answer that ask then that would be wonderful…

This is a bit of a tough question. Most people who’ve detransitioned or who thought they were trans but realized they weren’t thought so because of gender roles, and stuff like this: disliking the way society treats women, so they thought they could deflect it by transitioning into a man.

For me, I know I was trans because of how uncomfortable I was in a female body. It wasn’t being a woman, necessarily, that made me uncomfortable, but my body itself. I was (and am) a huge feminist, and I wasn’t ashamed to be a woman. I knew I could be strong and brave as well as soft and caring while being a woman. But I just knew, deep down, that I couldn’t keep living as one because I just wasn’t.

I’ve seen some videos by detransitioners (which can be really informative, just be careful if you’re easily triggered by transphobia, because some of these people go full-TERF after transitioning), and from the sounds of it, they transitioned because they wanted power, respect, and freedom from sexual harassment, which are all things they thought they could achieve by becoming male. They saw their female characteristics as the cause of their suffering, because of how society treated them because they were female.

I think that’s the main difference between someone who is actually transgender, and someone who is a cis woman, but doesn’t want to be treated as one because of sexism. Transitioning for yourself because your body seems wrong, versus transitioning to escape societal expectations of your sex.

Granted, this isn’t a subject I’m especially educated on, so I’d appreciate input from anyone who is a detransitioner or who thought they were trans but realized it was internalized misogyny, etc.

cherryloser:

someone did that thing to me where they ask an lgbt person “how do you know you don’t like it if you’ve never tried ____?” and i was like “this isn’t fucking SOUP karen this is SEXUAL ATTRACTION it’s DIFFERENT”

sociable-ace:

pochowek:

pochowek:

i love that one old timey 1910s trans dude who has a tiny wikipedia page for himself that he earned entirely due to him starting fights in bars and being the city’s hottest casanova

i mightve remembered it wrong but it still feels like half of this page is “I’m A Man For Fucks Sake” and the other half is “That Motherfucker Is In Jail Again And Also Bit A Cop”

ophiliad:

i hope you’re all aware of the 300 recently discovered love letters between two gay british soldiers during ww2 that are going to be possibly adapted into a film.

they’re beautiful and poetic and tragic and heart-wrenching and brave. i highly suggest going and reading the excerpts.

here’s the one that broke my heart:

“Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all our letters could be published in the future in a more enlightened time. Then all the world could see how in love we are.“

acemoppet:

justlookatthosesausages:

aleph-null-47:

pennie-dreadful:

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

chancethereaper:

thetolkiengeek:

goofy-ruthie:

stormtroopercorpse:

cishetsbeingcishet:

cishetsbeingcishet:

full offense but we will rock you by queen is 10000% a gay rights anthem and straight people dont have any rights to the song sorry

“Buddy, you’re a young man, hard man
Shouting in the street, gonna take on the world someday
You got blood on your face, you big disgrace
Waving your banner all over the place”

like how can u hear that verse and think its a song for hetties idk how much more obvious it can be

Y’all big mad in the notes

Actually every song by Queen is a lgbt anthem

Don’t Stop Me Now is the bisexual anthem to end all bisexual anthems and you will not change my mind

Heteros are really pressed in the notes keep reblogging this

Why are they booing this post, it’s right

Good Old Fashioned Lover Boy–gay men’s anthem

Don’t Stop Me Now/Bicycle Race–pan/bi anthems

You’re My Best Friend–lesbian anthem

Mother Love–aro/ace anthem

Killer Queen–trans ladies’ anthem

Princes of the Universe–trans lads’ anthem

I’m Going Slightly Mad–nonbinary/genderfluid anthem

I Want To Break Free–everyone’s coming out anthem

it got better

how can one think any second that Queen is not 100% LGBT+ when they literally dressed like this in the I Want To Break Free clip

Bohemian Rhapsody as well lads. For the gays

goodpositivitylgbt:

Here is to the ones who are aroace (on the aromantic and asexual spectrums) that feel more connected to being aro than ace…

It can be difficult at times to see aromantic identity in general being swept aside but I am here to say as a fellow aromantic and asexual person that it is great being aromantic!

To everyone else: let’s include aromantic more in discussions about romantic attraction identities and how a person can gravitate more towards being aromantic than asexual.

bramblepatch:

hey so I’m not giving JKR any credit whatsoever for accidentally writing a nonbinary icon (bc if she’d meant to do it she’d never have shut up about it) but Tonks refuses to use even shortened forms of her heavily feminine given name with anyone except close family members and has The Classic Genderweird Dream Power of at-will minor shapeshifting and uses it to look punkishly androgynous with Cool Hair thank you for coming to my TED talk