me irl: the sonnets are queer, mercutio’s queer, iago wants to have sex with othello, puck and oberon are totally hooking up, emilia and desdemona are probably making out, are u fuckin kidding me with brutus/cassius rn, hamlet’s ace and doin queer shit w/horatio, phebe’s kinda gay for rosalind, nO ONE IS STRAIGHT
me in my term paper: well, the historical context is important for considering the hypothetical queerness of shakespeare’s characters, and we can’t ever really say anything for sure, but shakespeare’s ambiguous wording and use of complex scenarios that obscure gender open the texts to possibilities for queer readings maybe sometimes I don’t know
full offense but we will rock you by queen is 10000% a gay rights anthem and straight people dont have any rights to the song sorry
“Buddy, you’re a young man, hard man Shouting in the street, gonna take on the world someday You got blood on your face, you big disgrace Waving your banner all over the place”
like how can u hear that verse and think its a song for hetties idk how much more obvious it can be
Y’all big mad in the notes
Actually every song by Queen is a lgbt anthem
Don’t Stop Me Now is the bisexual anthem to end all bisexual anthems and you will not change my mind
Heteros are really pressed in the notes keep reblogging this
if you start to question your identity after a long time of identifying one way, its okay. you’re learning and growing and changing everyday. it doesn’t mean you were faking if you change your label or decide to go without one for a while.
The strongest and fiercest warrior of the Agean Army was Achilles, a warrior who was super into his slave women, but also really gay for his best friend Patroklos. You hold the entire combined power of the Danaäns unified against Troy with you. You have the blood of the gods running through you. You shall prevail. You shall conquer. You shall rage.
I see a lot of people talking about encountering therapists and counselors who treat aromanticism like it’s an emotional problem. I’ve read stories about how certain therapists will tell you than your avoidance of relationships is about fear or depression or anxiety, and that being aro isn’t “real.”
Just to offer a more optimistic story, I kinda want to tell you all about my therapist. She and I already talked about sexuality and identity a lot, since I specifically found a queer-friendly counselor at my university and spent a lot of time talking about bisexuality. When I began to question whether I was aromantic, I was still feeling very uncertain about actually using the word.
So in a session with my therapist, I was talking about avoiding romantic relationships, and how I had gone on a date that made me feel suffocated really quickly. I was kind of trying to work my way towards mentioning aromanticism, but I felt really weird about it. She noticed. She asked me, a little hesitantly, if I visualized a future, a life, where romantic relationships would be fulfilling for me. I basically said I only really visualized living in a small house with my two cats and a dog. And she asked me about if there was identity word for that.
She gave me an opening to talk about aromanticism, and I immediately jumped on it, telling her about how I’d been researching it, how I’d been reading about other people’s experiences, and how much it resonated with me. We spent the rest of the session discussing the cultural divide between romantic feelings and platonic feelings, and how ingrained romance is in our culture, how romance is so central to fiction and to what people see as an ideal life. I told her about the word “amatonormativity.” She asked me if learning about aromanticism felt freeing, if it took the pressure off me, because she already knew about how negatively I felt about romantic relationships when I was involved in them. It was a really, really productive session, and I felt so relieved afterwards.
My point in all of this, my point in telling this story, is that I wanted to share a positive experience here. I get sad when I see aro people sharing their negative experiences. It’s just so disheartening, like those interactions are just a fact of being aro. But they shouldn’t be. My experience shouldn’t be unusual; it should be the default.
the stereotype that asexual people are childlike because we dont feel sexual attraction is pretty damaging because it is once again insinuating that in order to be a fully functioning adult you have to feel sexual attraction and if you dont youre obviously immature and lesser as a person
One thing I always bring up that straight writers obviously don’t understand but every gay person ever can attest to is that queer people stick together. Like, every queer person knows like 15 other ones and those 15 know even more.
Like, having only One in your story completely misses the point of how we organize and stay safe, in addition to completely missing the point on being progressive (ie, having A Single Gay in your story isn’t special anymore and hasn’t been for decades now)
It is a fundamental misunderstanding of how marginalized people act bc straight people are allowed to be solitary and they don’t understand any other way of Being
Hijacking this post to talk about something interesting! There’s a lot of criticism in fanfiction circles of yaoi or yuri fanfiction where ‘everybody is gay’, and it’s almost always by folks who haven’t been involved in queer communities. If you’re queer, you really do surround yourself with queer people – so ‘everybody is gay’ in a character’s social circle actually makes perfect sense!
this exhibits itself in other ways too, for example, when there’s one queer sibling there’s usually more – often because one sibling will bring the definitions home and the other will use that to explore their own identity!
Another weird phenomenon I noticed is this happens a lot even before people realize they’re Not Straight ™. Out of my close friends in high school, most of us turned out some form of LGBTQA, and I’ve heard other people say the same is true for them. So people saying it’s “unrealistic” that everyone in the same social circle would gradually discover they’re Not Straight ™- yeah, it is totally reasonable and even likely.
I have to wonder if maybe THIS is where straight people got the term “catching the gay”… You know?
My mother was so concerned when I moved to CA for college that I would “catch the gay”, and I was just like “???????? pretty sure it’s not something you catch like a cold, mom.” And ignored her.
It wasn’t until I started making friends in the LGBT community and spending time with them and loving them as people that I slowly became aware of the fact that I might not be straight. And after years of talking to LGBT youth and living in a city that embraces that culture, I found myself realizing that I was ALWAYS like this, but never realized it.
It’s like… you could go your ENTIRE life having the choice of eating raisin bran, bran flakes, or plain cheerios for breakfast. And that’s pretty much the only choices you’re offered. But then. THEN! You walk into a supermarket and see an ENTIRE AISLE of a billion cereal choices, and you realize “wait, I…are…are you telling me that I could have had LUCKY CHARMS for breakfast?!”
And OOOOHHHHHH BOI lemme tell you a thing, when you see your buddies eating captain crunch and lucky charms, and you realize you can ALSO have that?
Well, then – if “the gay” is contagious, then you’d better lock me in quarantine.
In my experience it’s actually way more common to have the one (1) straight person in the group then having a token gay.
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