Tag: lgbtqia

anikofromearth:

peterssquill:

clint can have an entire secret family w a shitty ass throw away explanation?? bruce can fall on Natasha’s boobs and we’ll call that a romance?? steve can kiss the niece of one of his great loves right after her funeral, even tho there’s no build up and no tension? we can have an Android // human romance???? but it’s too far fetched to give us one (1) scene showing that valkyrie is canonically bisexual? or keep a scene with a lesbian couple in black panther?? or let steve rogers b bisexual with a soft spot for brunettes, especially considering the most consistent and intricate relationship built in the mcu is between two males(steve // buck)?? OKAY

Thiiiiss fuuuck

gentlemanandlady:

If you don’t think having aromantic representation is important, I just walked past a girl who was worried that she never could get feelings for anyone, and she friends comforting her saying “don’t worry, you’ll find someone.” Instead of “You don’t need to have feelings for someone else to be happy.”

apeironstella:

Aro culture is when you hear whole white knight in shining armour saving the princess from the big bad dragon tale but thinking of how cool it would be to be the one who defeats AND befriends the dragon. (Knight can come too, you guess. So long as they know YOU are the coolest one here with your new dragon bestie.)

buckysbears:

cutiequeercris:

dysperdis:

dysperdis:

so this has been bouncing around my head for a while and I’m still not sure if this is the best way to phrase it, but…

making opportunities for everyone to explore their gender and orientation means nothing if it’s not safe for people to be wrong about their gender and orientation. otherwise, “exploring your identity” becomes limited to “confirming what you were already pretty sure of,” which isn’t going to do anything for anyone who isn’t already at that stage.

like, time and again i’ve seen people questioning whether they’re allowed to use certain pronouns or labels if they’re still questioning those identities or if they need to wait until they’re more sure of the label. or people being worried that changes in how they identify and the language they use to describe themselves will validate stereotypes.

and this is the result of a culture where choosing an identity label that ends up being wrong is far worse than never exploring your identity in the first place. it’s the same reason people freak out about trans kids, because what if they decide they aren’t trans after all in the future? it’s also why i’ve run into multiple callouts on this site that include things like “10 years ago they called themself a ‘lesbian with an exception’ for a couple of months,” because trying to reconcile old identities with new experiences is seen as a threat.

and in the end, the people this attitude ends up punishing are folks who are targeted by cissexism and/or heterosexism, but are lacking some of the language or the experiences or even the community that would allow them to express how those systems impact them.

Take all the time you need to figure it out. Try different clothes, pronouns, names. Our society doesnt make this easy. Theres nothing wrong with being wrong while you figure it out

and just because you settle on something different later doesnt mean you were ‘wrong’ before 

aromantic-safe-spafe:

aro-ollie:

too-spicy-and-too-queer:

aroacepagans:

hella-aro:

You know what should be a thing, aromantic – polyamourous solidarity. Like I know it seems like I’m talking about things that are completely opposite, but think about it

– both groups reject conventional relationship ideas

– we all don’t believe in the idea of finding that one, single romantic partner that will be more important than anyone else in our lives (whether we don’t want a romantic partner at all or we want multiple, equally important ones)

– referring to above, we all get told one day we will find that person that will make us see the light of monogamous romantic love or whatever

– both polyam people and allosexual aros get shoved into the stereotype of asshole who just wants to sleep around without commitment

– our relationships of choice don’t get the same kind of privileges romantic ones do (whether because we don’t want to marry or because we can’t marry multiple people)

– some people are both aromantic and polyamourous

Idk I just think we could get along

This! This is what I’ve been trying to say! Aro and poly people both have to deal with amatonormativity and we should use that as a foundation for solidarity.

As someone who is both aro and poly, I agree, I think there are lots of areas of overlap and I’d like to see more solidarity with these two communities.  I also think the two communities could inform each other quite a bit.  Poly concepts of relationship models and intimacy would be very useful for aros seeking to build intimate relationships, and aro understanding of amatonormativity and attraction would be useful for poly people seeking to deconstruct relationship norms and better understand intimacy.

Another aro and poly person here. Amatonormativity weighs both communities down and our views of relationships are very similar. I hope that there is more unity between both communities in the future as we would all benefit from a bit of solidarity!

Another aro and polyam person here! I love everything in this post! ❤

eggsaladstain:

on a scale of 1 to john oliver commissioning a competing picture book about mike pence’s rabbit with a storyline about same sex marriage and democracy and tolerance, releasing that book a day before the release of mike pence’s picture book, and then donating proceeds from the book to the trevor project and aids united, how (righteously) petty are you