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Tag: lgbtqia
A tip: when someone asks you why don’t you get some kind of romantic partner, a good answer is, “and what do I need one for?”
From personal experience, that question usually confuses the other person enough for you to be able to change subject, or at least you’ve put them in a very awkward position
List of bisexuals whose identities are erased by the media.
- P!nk
- Anne Frank
- Megan Fox
- Billie Joe Armstrong
- Snooki
- Drew Barrymore
- Angelina Jolie
- Azealia Banks
- Kesha
- Fergie
- Lady Gaga
- Madonna
- Clive Davis
- Anna Paquin
- Bai Ling
- Carrie Brownstein
- Evan Rachel Wood
- Amber Heard
- Frenchie Davis
- Vanessa Carlton
- Jillian Michaels
- Freddie Mercury (debatable, but considering he had had a long-term relationship with Mary Austin and he tended to keep quiet on matters of his private life, we’ll never know for sure)
All or which have either been given the name “gay” or “straight“ by the media despite coming out. There are more than two sexualities and this is a fact that most people (even on Tumblr nowadays) forget. People tend to assume that since someone is with a person of the same gender, they’re gay. (Or vice versa in Angelina or P!nk’s case) This is incorrect to assume because you’re erasing their identities in the process. The people on this list aren’t gay or straight, they’re bisexual. No matter how much the media tries to erase that.
also….
this just made me feel so much better
CHANNING FUCKING TATUM
what
Channing Tatum is openly bisexual but people just….ignore it.
No the fuck i don’t. The fact that i have a chance with Channing Tatum regardless of my gender has gotten me through some bad days. Also David Bowie.
Omg I can’t believe he wasn’t listed I had to double check!
AND DAVID FUCKING BOWIE
reblogging for all my bi kids out there who are trying to find bisexual role models. there are a lot of bi celebrities out there, it’s just that the media doesn’t like to accept that.
i’m a simple aro with simple needs. i see a found family story? i get extremely attached and cry my eyes out at a happy ending.
Can we all take a moment to appreciate non-binary fairies please
“little sillies” :’3
Also note that this was written before pink was assigned to girls and blue to boys.
One of the things that annoys me the most is when alloromantics act like romance is inherently so much better and that it’s not subjective at all like. “just friendship” for one.
But when I go and imply something like, maybe, I value friendship more I’m an asshole suddenly.
It makes me reeeeally want to say “just romance” or “oh no we’re more than dating, we’re friends” or shit like that
So maybe that does make me an asshole but hey honestly I don’t see why I can’t think of friendship as inherently more, in the other opinion doesn’t make people apparently.
something ive been thinking abt re: the discorse recently
a lot of exclusionists talk about how aros and aces shouldn’t be allowed at pride because pride is (in part) a celebration of queer sexual expression. It’s an event where many people are open and proud about being sexually attracted to the same gender or experiencing sexuality in unconventional ways, and I agree thats not something anyone should want to take away from.
However people forget, pride is also about breaking down cis-heteronormativity, and that includes fighting for our ability to not consent to heterosexual sex and relationships.
We are born into a society that tells us from birth that in order to be happy, we must seek relationships with the “opposite” gender, get married, and have heterosexual sex to connsummate the marriage and procreate. There is a huge pressure to participate in heterosexual sex and relationships, to the point that many queer people perform such a relationship for years if they are not given the proper education and space to be themselves. Pride is about leading by example, about showing people it’s ok to not only desire same-gender relationships, but to refuse the cishet relationship model. Its about undoing the harm of a society that expects you to consent to its terms before you can even read the contract.
So, what’s this have to do with aspecs? Well, in a cis-heterosexual society, sex and romance has always been part of that contract.
Aces and aros are also celebrating their ability to not consent to this relationship model. We are growing up in this society too, and we are being told we MUST consent to a relationship model that includes forms of attraction we largely don’t experience, and performing acts we largely don’t desire. Even if some of us want heterosexual sex or relationships, we cannot perform them to cishet standards, because we don’t experience the attraction that everyone is assumed is inherint to us since birth. We are out here telling people like us that it is ok to refuse sex or romance, that it’s ok to say no to things you don’t desire. And in the process, we want to own ourselves again. We want to be proud of our identity, because its so easy to only define yourself by what society thinks you lack. We want to tell others like us that we are only different, and that our experiences and points of veiw hold value and are something to be celebrated.
But we have to stop this nonsense that pride is only about celebrating the ability to say yes. Pride is also about saying no, because if we cannot safely refuse society’s expectations, we cannot truly be ourselves.
That scene where Archie is all “I’m not gunna apologise for being a NORMAL guy” and Jughead’s head just whips round to glare at him and he looks so hurt is honestly iconic?? like so many ace and aro people can relate to that we have all been Jughead in a conversation/argument like that and it’s so validating to see it it comic form. like honestly the Jughead comics are such a gift.
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