Tag: lgbtqia

rowantheexplorer:

jazzbott:

anexperimentallife:

icacus:

acquaintedwithrask:

stonerdayzandpurplehaze:

darksideoftheshroom:

rainbow reflection on water

Oh my god

Finally, the gays have polluted the water supply

They’re turning the frogs gay

Reblog if you support gay water.

I hope it’s not from spilled oil, because those rainbows make me sad for the state of our planet.

If it’s some natural phenomenon I’ve never heard of then cool.

Good news! It’s not pollution, but instead entirely natural bacterial action that happens in low oxygen bogs. Iron-loving bacteria are feeding on dissolved iron in the water, and their metabolic processes produce this rainbow oily film on the surface. Their waste products settle into an iron ore sediment. You are literally watching bog iron form, which was the primary source of iron for most of northern Europe during the Medieval era.

It’s still super gay, though. It’s now just Science Gay.

Hey. Im not sure if I’m aro. There are these girls who I think I might like but Im not sure if its romantic attraction or platonic? The girl has changed three times, but its felt similar til the last girl. (I’ve ruled the first two as squishes) the latest girl is a close friend of mine,And that’s got me thinking maybe Im demiro. Im v confused, cause I dont know what Im feeling, and would love another opinion. Also I’ll use ♠️ so you know its me if I need to ask anymore questions, hope that’s ok

aspecpplarebeautiful:

So figuring out the difference between whether you’re experiencing romantic attraction, QP attraction or alterous attraction can be really tricky for a couple reasons. A major one is that we’ve all grown up being taught over and over again that any attraction=romantic attraction and means we have to want to date them. And it’s really hard to break that association. 

There’s a similar thing to this with sexual attraction, but unlike romantic attraction, sexual attraction is a lot more straight forward to explain/describe. Romantic attraction on the other hand tends to have this ineffable quality. and often gets described as ‘you’ll know it when you feel it’. Which makes it a bit harder to pinpoint.

The other issue is that romantic attraction, QP attraction and alterous attraction can all have similar symptoms. (Thinking about the person you’re attracted to a lot, being nervous around them, thinking they’re really interesting, etc.)

So the first step to figuring out if you’re experiencing romantic attraction or not is breaking that association of attraction=romantic attraction. You’ve already figured out that your attraction may not be romantic, which is the first step, but it honestly just takes time.

Try and ask yourself honestly, what’s your idea situation with this person. Is it being really close/being really important to them? But being completely satisfied if the relationship is entirely platonic?  (Common with QP attraction)

Is it having a very strong emotional bond, and it either doesn’t matter if it’s romantic or platonic, or you’d like something that’s something in between or defies labels? (Common with alterous attraction)

When you fantasize about being with this person, do you naturally drift towards scenarios that you personally would consider romantic? Is it important to you that you do romantic things with them? (Common with romantic attraction)

Reading up on QP attraction and alterous attraction, especially the experiences of people who experience them, can be really useful too.

The other thing is that there are also a few labels for people who can’t distinguish between platonic and romantic attraction, or just kind of occupies that area between the two. Some of the better known labels that fall under this: 

Quoiromantic (great write-up here) is probably the most common, but there’s also idemromantic (someone who categorizes relationshionships and feelings as platonic or romantic, but feels no internal difference between the two), platoniromantic (someone who feels no difference between romantic and platonic attraction) and schromantic (someone who feels like the attraction they experience is both romantic and platonic at the same time or is a mix of the two), which all might be worth looking into too.

Remember you can also be both demi and be any of the listed labels above too.

And it is absolutely fine using the ♠️ symbol for follow-up questions. 

All the best, Anon!

Hey, hi, I found you today through @amatonormative-moments and… can I just say that your huge, explicit emphasis for ace inclusion/against ace exclusionists just makes this aroace person so happy? Especially since you do not seem to ID as either acespec or arospec?? And I’m just… I feel like it’s so rare to see non-aspec people so explicitly sticking up for us all. the. time. on tumblr like you seem to. So… thanks. It means a lot. <3

vaspider:

I am allo as fuck. I experience lots of romantic attraction. I get crushes all the ding dang time, of all sorts. (Side note, I didn’t really understand the concept of a ‘squish’ for a long time, because I had never had a crush that didn’t have some sort of I MIGHT LIKE TO DO A SEXY THING component. And then I realized I totally have a squish on Reggie Watts from the Late Late Show. I just want to snuggle and talk about Westworld? But I’m like super crushing on him in a snuggly friend way?)

Anyway. Here’s the thing. Like. I can choose to either be an inclusive person who stretches out my arms and says, “come on up, bring that bit of wood you’ve been clinging to, and add it to our raft so that our raft is bigger, and we will all weather the storm together. I can see that you are hurt and tired, and I, too, am hurt and tired. And together we have a better chance of surviving.”

Or.

I can shove people off the raft, have a smaller raft because people aren’t bringing me their life jackets and bits of flotsam they’ve been clinging to, have a shittier crew on that raft because we’re all focused on who should and shouldn’t be on the raft rather than how we can get the raft to a safe harbor and take care of everybody on it until we get there.

Those are the choices. The only reason to shove someone off the raft is if they’re actively, that individual, a danger to people on the raft, because no one ends up clinging to flotsam in the middle of this metaphorical ocean unless they belong on the ding dang raft in the first place. They’re all on the big sturdy SS Cisheteroalloperipatriarchy. They don’t need our raft and they don’t want it.

Clearly, I choose the first one. And I’m glad to welcome you up onto my raft. The seas are high and choppy, and we’re not gonna make it if we have to weather these waves alone.

sidonspussy:

art-ichoke:

ayellowbirds:

ambiguouslyevil:

helgageraldinepataki:

darkwingsnark:

vincedakota:

me thinkin abt how perry the platypus is Often referred to as an egg laying mammal, even in his theme song:

Not to forget when Candace was in his body she was able to sweat milk.

considering everyone in the family was totally accepting of the fact he could lay an egg, everyone in the family thus is aware of and loves their trans platypus

There’s also a scene where a professional platypus hunter makes mention of the venomous spurs of the male platypus—as i recall, Doofenshmirtz is surprised, and questions Perry about it, only to get a shrug in response and no indication that Perry has spurs in the first place…. 

y’all forgetting he’s also gay

the gay trans icon we need

I’ll never stop fucking reblogging this

gayknight:

nitrosplicer:

angelescoffee:

nitrosplicer:

Reading wiki entries for historical trans men…

Dr. James Barry, Albert Cashier, Charley Parkhurst, Billy Tipton, and Dr. Alan Hart could have each written “I am a man and want to be recognized across history as such” and transphobes would still be like… “wow what misunderstood butch heroes… lesbian icons!!!!”

interesting how they… didn’t all write that. across history women have disguised themselves as men in order to escape misogyny cus u couldn’t get anywhere much in life (much less become successful doctors) as women. and anyways, of course a woman constrained by sexism would prefer to be given the privileges of a man. i can’t confirm these women were lesbians, but you cannot confirm they were transmen either. 

Interesting how… I didn’t argue that women haven’t disguised themselves throughout history. I mentioned specific instances of historical trans men for whom there is evidence to conclude they identified as men and not women. I said nothing against lesbians in my post either, only about transphobes.

Anyways: 

Dr. James Barry had a close relationship with Lord Charles Somerset and was subsequently accused of buggery, which led to a court trial and investigation as homosexuality was illegal. He could have revealed that he was female at any time during the trial to escape condemnation, but he did not. Upon his death, Barry left strict instructions that his body was not to be undressed and he was to be buried in his bedsheets. 

Albert Cashier could not read or write, but lived as a man for 53 years, even after fighting in the uniform of a Union soldier, he maintained his male dress and presentation until he slipped and fell, breaking his hip. 

The indomitable stagecoach driver Charlie Parkhurst lived as a man from the time he was 12, and after retiring, maintained his identity as a man until his death.

Also it’s interesting that you said that I could not undeniably prove any of these men were trans: Alan L Hart was undeniably trans, as he sought out medical transition and pyschotherapy for his gender dysphoria, referred to himself as “one of the fellows,” legally changed his name, lived as a man from a young age, and continued to do so until his death, so yeah, you really can’t say “oh he’s a lesbian,” can you?

while billy tipton might’ve initially identified as a lesbian, he later transitioned to presenting male full-time. he told his future female partners that he was a man and that his body was the result of a serious car accident. he went on to adopt children, and was known as a “good father”. at the age of 74, he refused to be seen by a doctor when he contracted emphysema, which caused his death. neither his later female partners or his children or friends seemed to know he was trans until he was forcefully outed at death

i’d also like to add

little ax broadnax, a gospel singer who performed in multiple quartets over the years with his older brother. while still living with his family, he was recorded in the US census as male. he was outed publicly as a trans man at death in 1992, having presented as male for over 60 years

bloodytales:

flymetothem000n:

killerchickadee:

You kiddos have no idea how groundbreaking this was. Like there’s a reason THE lesbian website for a billion years was called After Ellen. She changed everything.

This moment is so fucking powerful. I love her

I will always admire how courageous Ellen was to do this. At a time where coming out wasn’t something that was easily accepted, she went on national TV and did it anyway.

This moment set the stage for so many more coming out stories. She faced a lot of hate for doing this, so I can’t help but send her a little love every time I’m reminded of her strength.

Look at her face in that last GIF. You can see how afraid she was. But her desire to live as herself was stronger than her fear. That is courage.

mexicantransguy:

You know what? There are a lot of things I don’t understand about the LGBT community as a binary trans mlm. I don’t understand how trans people can be non-dysphoric, because my experience with dysphoria is very different. I don’t understand why there are so many MOGAI labels, or why xenogenders and things of the sort exist. I don’t understand how some lesbians can use he/him pronouns. I don’t understand why some nonbinary people use neopronouns when they can just use they/them. I don’t understand why there are so many ace/aro spectrum labels, because frankly I myself don’t like labels that much.

But guess what? I’m not an asshole.

I respect trans people and acknowledge that they are trans even if they don’t have dysphoria, because I know being trans isn’t an universal experience and is different for everyone.

I respect MOGAI labels, even if I think they are ‘cringy’ and unnecessary, because if they make you happy then what’s wrong with them? What’s wrong with using more words to describe yourself?

I respect he/him lesbians and use their pronouns, because even though I don’t fully understand why, it’s obvious that these pronouns make them more comfortable and as a trans person I understand that.

I use and respect the neopronouns for my nonbinary siblings even though I may say them wrong sometimes (I don’t have a lot of experience with them) because I understand what it’s like to be referred to as the wrong pronouns.

I respect ace/aro identities, regardless of ace discourse, because they are valid, and I don’t need to understand why or how someone chooses to identify. I myself would technically be demisexual, but I don’t choose to identify that way because it feels unnecessary. But if you feel like it fits? You do you.

Here’s a thought: you don’t need to understand something in order to respect it. Just let people keep identifying how they identify, they aren’t doing anyone any harm. And guess what? Even if they do turn out to be cishet, that’s fine too. At the end of the day, all we have done is earn an ally to the community.