Holy shit. Holy fuck. I got my little sister the book “sex is a funny word” because she’s at that age where she’s reading a lot of puberty books and I’d heard that this one was lgbtq+ friendly, but I was checking it over for accuracy and I gotta say, even with the totally gender neutral language they were using to talk about body parts and the really respectful way they talk about gender and their portrayals of same sex couples I was so fucking sure that I would have to mention that not everyone gets crushes or feels attraction separately. Because these books never talk about that. But here it is. The one thing I was so absolutely sure wouldn’t be included.
I honest to god dropped the book when I saw this I was so shocked. And I’m so fucking happy right now. I can’t exspress how much I wish this was mentioned in the books I read when I was a kid. It would have saved me so much confusion, and I’m so happy that kids today are gonna read this and know that it’s okay and normal to not get curses. I’m so so fucking happy you have no idea.
me and my friend @toytulini were talking on discord about how it would be nice if there were terms like stag/tomcat/doe and butch/femme, but for aces, describing feminine, androgynous and masculine presentation so we decided to coin some terms together. in order, you have:
jellyfish ace – ace person who presents in a feminine way, regardless of gender. i chose jellyfishes because they are often pink, a color associated with femininity, and because to me it sometimes looks like jellyfishes are wearing dresses or skirts, because of how their bodies are shaped like.
anemone ace – ace person who presents in an androgynous way, regardless of gender. anemones seem very androgynous-looking to me. they dont really long like anything, they look like themselves, which is something that reminds me of androgyny
manta ray ace – little tuxedo man “theyre usually very sleek in dark colors, which is associated with masculine formal wear, like suits.” – a cool friend on discord
feel free to use these terms and flags! if youre ace and reblog this, put in the tags which one(s) you are, if youre any 🙂 also please credit us if you use them, by linking it back to this post, if possible!
I wore my asexual flag scarf to class on Friday and in tutorial, as soon as I sat down, a girl sitting next to me said “Hey, are those the ace colours as a scarf?”
!! Recognised in the wild!
there’s someone who lives in the same dorm as me who wears an ace colored sweatshirt and i asked them if it was bc they were ace and they said yes and we high-fived!
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The true power of pride flags.
I wore my ace scarf and ran into a girl with an ace patch on her bag. Greatest day of my life.
There’s a girl who has the pan flag draw on her bag in my creative writing class, and I squealed when I saw it.
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When I was helping run the lgbtqia+ soc. stall we had at the school’s fresher’s fayre, I had an ace flag draoed around me and a group of younger students came up to our table, encouraging their ace friend to talk to us.
It was fantastic, ace recognition and solidarity in public is like such a great thing to experience
Someone once said they liked my button and I’m like which one and she said the ace button and I’ve never been so happy in my life. And I met a guy who was ace as well and recognized my pin as well. He’s part of my d&d group.
One of the girls in my class painted her nails the colors of the ace flag, and I asked her if she could do mine.
Next thing you know it’s two short ace girls walking around and holding hands with ace colored nails.
Editor of YA Interrobang here! First of all, you should never – ever – feel like a freak of nature. Half of Team Interrobang is on the asexual spectrum, including me, and there are plenty of authors who are asexual or aromantic or both, even if it’s not something they actively discuss. (Take Katie Locke, for instance, an author on the asexual spectrum whose debut YA novel hits shelves next year.) You are not alone, and you are no more a freak than I am.
– We Awaken by Calista Lynne – As Autumn Leaves by Kate Sands
– Every Heart A Doorway by Seanan McGuire (a personal favorite) – We Go Forward by Alison Evans –
Tash Hearts Tolstoy by Kathryn Ormsbee (releases 2017)
Tristina Wright’s 27 Hours, which releases in 2017, has a character that is both asexual AND aromantic.
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