Like/reblog this if you’re ace-spec and/or aro-spec and 18 or older

pointy-eared-muse:

mr-barrows-cup-of-tea:

aroacepositivityplace:

I want to try to show younger a-specs that we’re out there and that it isn’t just an identity for kids to grow out of.

45 years old and demisexual. 

I only figured out my orientation 3 years ago. It didn’t come as some “big revelation” but little but little, as I learnt more about it, it helped me put pieces together. I wasn’t broken – actually I had never been. It was just who I was, how I was born. I wasn’t alone – and in some way it was a relief to me. I had a word to describe myself, my experience, and this word was a statement, a fact, the answer to all the questions I had been asking myself for decades about my unsatisfying love (no)life. Finally there was a “BECAUSE” to the “WHY”, and the explanation was so simple, so obvious, I could fully accept it. 

Tumblr has been the place where I found out, thanks to younger A-spec people who reblog, talk, teach about asexuality. YOU ARE WONDERFUL to do so, and to support and empower one another. It is so important not to feel alone ! Back in my younger days, I felt like I was “the only ace alien in the village”. Raising awareness is so very important, as inacceptance (sadly) can do much damage. I’ve been through times and places I wouldn’t wish anybody to go. 

To those of you who’d been rejected because they didn’t fit the mold of relationshipsTM, I know it hurts as Hell, it hurts so deep. Never forget that YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS as much as anyone else. There are so many ways you can connect with other people, as long as they’re compatible with you or acceptant of who you are. You are unique, and so is your happiness. 

*HUGS TO YOU ALL*

Aro/ace and just turned 33!

Honestly, I was in my late teens when I started warning potential partners I wasn’t sure if I was able to love them.  I was in my mid-twenties when I took myself “off market.”  It wasn’t until a couple years later I started using the aromantic and asexual labels.

And also?  I’m a mother.  I was 22 when my son was born, so, yes, any young aros and/or aces out there wondering if you can still have a family, I’m proof that you can.  And I don’t have a partner, and that’s OK.  If you do or don’t want a partner, that’s fine.  There’s no right or wrong way to be aspec.