Little things you can do to feel better if you are trans and you can’t really transition right now

realtransfacts:

zorilleerrant:

spookyandsleepy:

For guys

  • Baseball caps? Those are good.
  • Short haircuts. If anyone questions, say it’s for convenience.
  • For your neck: fang pendants (very badass). Or a dapper lil bowtie.
  • Big ass stompy boots.
  • Those cool belt buckles. You can get a basic one or something with a cool design (like a dragon!).
  • Don’t shave. Let your body hair grow. Unless you feel uncomfortable.
  • Buy some spicy-smelling perfumes or other cosmetics. Or if there is something that says “Forest” on it, this one is also good.
  • If you can, try some weightlifting. It will make your muscles better and release some of that sweet sweet testosterone. But remember, fat and skinny men are also very handsome, so if you can’t, don’t sweat it.
  • Eat plenty of protein for a testosterone boost. Also, zinc from seafood – like shrimp and salmon especially – will help that chemical magic. Leafy greens, pomegranate, coconuts, garlic also help. Watch out for soy and tofu! They raise estrogen. And raisins are great, but dried apricots are not.
  • Remember that no matter what you are 100% man (unless you are a demiguy/bigender, then you are 50% man or whatever it looks like for you, that is still very cool, and if you are genderfluid and currently a dude, that’s still very good and valid).

For gals

  • Kitten ear beanies are so pure and good (just like you).
  • Let your hair grow to a nice length. If anyone questions, say you found a new style.
  • For your neck: simple crystal pendants (very pretty). 
  • Crystal bracelets!
  • Lil ballet flats.
  • Shaving can make you feel a whole lot better. Remember – some cis girls also have to shave!
  • Just a little bit of lip balm goes a long way. Oh! And clear nail polish!
  • Sweet-smelling cosmetics are your best friend. You can probably get on eBay or in your local store a nice bottle of vanilla body mist.
  • Google some exercises for a bigger butt, if you want to try it. If you can’t, remeber less-curvy women are also beautiful.
  • Eat plenty of soy, flaxseed, sesame seed, dried apricots… I know that those give you a bit of extra estrogen. Apparently coffee can also do it? Getting estrogen from diet is harder. Just eat a lot of tasty fresh food. Remember to treat yourself.
  • Remember that no matter what you are 100% woman (unless you are a demigirl/bigender, then you are 50% woman or whatever it looks like for you, that is still very cool, and if you are genderfluid and currently a lady, that’s still very good and valid).

For nonbinary pals

  • Simple beanies.
  • Google “androgynous/unisex hairstyles”. Look how many cool options you have! You might tweak one to your needs, like make it longer, or shorter, or add some cool hair dye…
  • For your neck: scarves. They come in many colors and patterns, cover up your neck so you don’t get cold, also you can hide your neck bump or lack thereof.
  • Friendship bracelets!
  • Trainer shoes.
  • Baggy hoodies are really nice.
  • You can shave and don’t wear makeup. Or rock the beard and eyeshadow look. Or really, anything else.
  • Cosmetics? Citrus and lavender are considered unisex scents. You can also wikiHow to Make Perfume and mix some scents you like at home.
  • Exercise, if you are healthy enough to do it, is good. Try running and yoga. Remember, media sells us the myth that androgyny=thinness, but it’s bullcrap. Fat, curvy, muscular people can all be nonbinary and/or androgynous.
  • You can look up the guys and gals sections too. Maybe you will find something that helps you.
  • Remember that your identity is 100% valid and true, no matter what. Yes, any kind of identity. No matter if it’s a neutral void or a mix of everything, no matter if it’s stable or changes. It’s valid because you are valid.

For guys: use soaps/deodorants/etc. from the men’s section, say it’s because they’re cheaper or easier to find, or you hate flower smells.

For gals: use soaps/deodorants/etc. from the women’s section, say it’s because you have dry or sensitive skin and need the moisturizers, or because those are the soaps with less overpowering scents.

For nonbinary pals: use soaps/deodorants/etc. from the ‘all-natural’ or ‘allergen-free’ section, say it’s because of sensitivities to various ingredients or you’re trying to protect the environment.

I’d like to note that you can’t make much of a change in your body’s testosterone/estrogen levels just by changing your diet. I wish it was that simple but it isn’t. No matter what your eat or avoid eating, your body is going to hold itself at a more or less steady place – your body is designed to self-regulate, after all, so it’s just doing its job.

But the rest of this is sound advice well worth trying!

ive been thinking that maybe the fact that i id as nb might be because i’m a ace and feel uncomfortable about being sexualized and that it can be why i dislike having breasts and all other feminine attributes and im questioning if im actually valid,,

letters-to-lgbt-kids:

My dear lgbt+ child, 

If you feel like there’s a reason you identify as lgbt+, you are hundred percent valid. You are just as valid as people who don’t feel that way. 

I wrote a letter for people in such situations

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

vivelarepublique:

One of my favorite things about the release of The Force Awakens has been the surge of lgbtqia+ headcanons about the new characters as well as characters I have loved for years. And for me, ace headcanons are especially important, and so as such, I am here to talk about my ace space babes!!!

In this lovely new surge of Star Wars, I’ve gained a newfound love for Luke Skywalker, who wow oh wow I empathize with so much and rewatching he is so aro ace oh my god, AND I have a new excuse to talk about how much I love Obi-Wan Kenobi, who for a while has been my go-to biromantic ace fave. <333 And then seeing Rey on screen, I couldn’t help but think, oh my god my aro ace child who adores her newfound friends with all her heart, as if I needed more reasons to love her.

I have A Lot of feelings about these headcanons… But this post will get too long if I go on about them. 🙂 These pics aren’t super big or super HQ, they are just designed to be avatars, but if anyone wants other sizes, let me know! Feel free to like or reblog if you use them, or hey, shoot me a message! I love these headcanons and these characters so much and would love to her your thoughts on them ❤

PSA for LBGTQ babes

howilearnedtocope:

I’ve been coming out for over 10 years now, and honestly the one thing I wish I’d realized sooner is how useful descriptive language can be. Not only do you not need a label, you don’t even have to have everything figured out yet 🙂 Here are some solutions to common problems that can make it hard to explain who you are:

If you’re struggling to find the perfect label, try describing your sexual orientation or gender identity instead

Ex: “I’m attracted to men and nonbinary people” “I identify with women, but I don’t feel 100% female” “I don’t normally experience sexual attraction”

If you aren’t sure about your identity but want to come out, you can always just say the parts you are sure about

Ex:  “I like guys” “I have a crush on this person” “I don’t feel like a woman”

Want to be clear about how you feel, or worried about your labels changing later? You can include your questioning in the description.

Ex: “I think I’m trans, but I’m not sure” “I don’t really know how I identify yet, but I know I’m queer” “I think I’m on the ace spectrum”

Want to identify with a common label, but acknowledge there is a part that doesn’t fit? Try modifying the label with descriptors 

Ex: “I’m like 95% gay” or “I’m a nonbinary lesbian” “I’m a trans man, but my gender is fluid sometimes”

Want to take the pressure off or show how you feel about your identity? Play around with humor & tone to really suit you.

Ex: “I’m a really bad lesbian” (I’m nb and sometimes attracted to men and have used this one) “I’m so gay I can’t even think straight” “I’m too cool for gender”

At the end of the day, coming out is often informal and conversational, and you can use this to your advantage. The important thing isn’t the exact wording you use, but what you are trying to share ❤ 

If any of you are stressed because you aren’t sure of your identity or can’t find the perfect label, I hope this approach helps. It’s definitely made a big difference to me and my confusing gender and sexual orientation :p 

thedicedungeon:

Pride Dice kick starter. They also have stretch goals for more pride sets. I personally love these 😍

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forkless-a-spec-wonder:

I always leave the door open for questioning and uncertainty here, and so does the majority of the aro and ace oriented positivity I see. And there’s good reason for that – not because it’s somehow any worse to make a mistake with aspec labels as opposed to any other ones, but because absolutely everybody deserves an environment where they can change their label freely. That way, nobody feels pressured to stick with anything that feels wrong for them.

But I also want to state that you are under no obligation to continually question yourself or agonize over it – you’re allowed to be sure that you’re aro or ace. You don’t have to hedge all the time. You don’t have to keep one foot out the door in perpetuity, just in case some random, unforseen circumstance changes things.

drinkableburrito:

drinkableburrito:

straight ppl will see two dudes barebacking and go ‘wow wat a cute friendship’ but will call u a faggot if ur shirt isnt the right color like do yall even kno wat ur talking about anymore

two women: weve been in the love since we first saw eachother and have been living together for 40+ yrs and bang every night

straights: wow wat a cute friendship

straights in the lotion aisle: ooh better get the designated lotion for my gender or else ill be gay :/